“Who am I? Does anyone out there understand me?”
We all, at one point in our lives, ask ourselves this question. Identity is crucial to a life well-lived; it is the theme of countless books, both classical and modern, fiction and non-fiction. It shapes some of the greatest masterpieces in the world of art, and characterizes the world of education. It is a question that none of us can escape—a question that can only be answered by the individual as an individual: can I accept the way God has allowed me to be? In the Perfect You, I discuss this question of identity and the I-factor, and how each of us has a unique way of thinking, choosing and feeling. No two minds are alike—our ability to think, choose and feel is our particular blueprint for identity.
Your Perfect You is the reflection of God—out of it springs your identity and your purpose as a steward of his creation and glory. Once you begin to understand your Perfect you and its structure—because truly getting to fully understand your Perfect you is a lifelong journey—you can walk in anticipation and freedom through life, rejoicing despite the circumstances. You can truly be a light in a dark world, bringing heaven to earth through your thoughts, words and actions. Your Perfect you will take you from missing the mark of being made in God’s image to stepping into who you truly are.
We have incredible minds that are truly worth celebrating. We must also remember, however, that with the incredible power in our minds come responsibility for how we use it: we cannot escape the consequences of our choices. We choose life or death.
We are not defined by where we are or where we have been, but where we will be. Finding out who we are at your very core is a journey, and it can be an awe-inspiring one, depending on the attitude we choose!
When we step out of our Perfect You, we will be in conflict and this will make us frustrated and unhappy, and even reduce our intelligence and potentially lead to mental ill-health. Yet when we learn to focus on our God, who is love, and what he says about us, we learn how to embrace our unique identity and discover who we truly are in him.
The UQ (You-Quotient) profile you completed has a threefold purpose: to help you understand how you uniquely think, feel, and choose; to increase your ability to mindfully and deliberately self-regulate—thinking, feeling, and choosing to keep you in alignment with the Holy Spirit; and to help you understand how you think when you are operating in your Perfect You so that you can recognize when you are operating outside of it.
Discomfort zones are zones in our spirits, minds, and bodies that alert us to when we are stepping out of our Perfect You. They are gracious “prompts” from God to keep us in his love zone by increasing our awareness of our thoughts, feelings, and choices so we can self-regulate them. If we can train ourselves to identify and use the four discomfort zones, we are well on the way to being freed from the chains of toxicity and the fear attitudes they produce and stepping into our Perfect You: the unique way we think, feel and choose.